Are You an Overthinker? Are you an overthinker? Did you know that overthinking is common in child abuse and emotional neglect survivors? We survivors feel we can think our way to a feeling of safety, to find a better place. Our mind speeds up to find that special safety zone. We do this often enough; this …
Are Your Connections Real or Fake? Are your connections real or fake? I use the word ‘connections’ loosely because this can mean many things: relationships, friends, family, work, and acquaintances. Do you seem to lose these connections when you set healthy boundaries and not allow yourself to be used? Hi, this is Kurt B. Ellis, …
Announcing My First Book Award! Today, I am so pleased to be announcing my first book award. On September 6, 2023, I learned that my Boy in the Barn novel was recognized as AWARD FINALIST in the 2023 GLOBAL BOOK AWARDS’ Politics & Social Sciences category. Hi, this is Kurt B. Ellis, an author who …
Do You Feel Responsible for Your Abuse? Do you feel responsible for your abuse? I hope not because you are an abuse victim; you are not responsible for what happened. It does not matter what you are, what you look like, where you were, what you said, did, or represented, what you were wearing, or …
How Do You Deal with the Narcissists in Your Life? How do you deal with the narcissists in your life? I am pretty intolerant of narcissists once I discover them. As a childhood trauma victim, I grew up being controlled, manipulated, and abused by narcissistic family members. As an adult, I now have a short …
Why Do You Self-Isolate? As a childhood trauma survivor, do you find at times that you prefer to be alone? Have you ever asked yourself, “Why do you self-isolate?” Self-isolation is a typical result of childhood trauma. And it’s one of the things I still battle with, even after years of therapy. Hi, this is Kurt …
Will You Be a Better Version of Your Parents? As a child abuse trauma survivor, did you ever ask yourself, “Will you be a better version of your parents?” Now we all know that parenting is not easy. Still, this fundamental question is something that we should all challenge ourselves. Hi, this is Kurt B. Ellis, …
Did You Become a Perfectionist? As a result of your child abuse, did you become a perfectionist? Did you ever feel like you were not good enough and that if you just worked harder, you could improve? Hi, this is Kurt B. Ellis, an author who self-publishes with Amazon’s Kindle Direct Publishing. I became a perfectionist because …
Is There Hope After Sexual Abuse? As a childhood sexual abuse survivor, did you ask yourself, “Is there hope after sexual abuse?” How will you now live and move forward? During and after my abuse, I felt hopeless and full of despair. I felt used and dirty. I was ashamed and embarrassed. I felt my …
Did You Grow Up Feeling Unloved? Did you grow up feeling unloved by your parents? Did you have an emotionally distant parent? Did you have a parent whose love was conditional? Did this shatter your sense of self-worth? And did you constantly find yourself longing for a sense of belonging and acceptance? Hi, this is Kurt …