Do You Feel Guilty for Being Good to Yourself? As a child abuse survivor, do you feel guilty for being good to yourself? That is, doing something that makes you happy, brings you joy, and gives you contentment. Did you know you were probably conditioned to be this way by your upbringing? I was raised in …
Do You Feel Emotionally Numb? As a childhood trauma survivor, do you feel emotionally numb? Did you know that if you suffered chronic childhood trauma, you may have coped by emotionally shutting down so you didn’t feel pain? I am a child abuse survivor. Beginning at six, I was sexually abused and groomed by my sadistic …
The Good and Bad of Dissociation? As a childhood trauma survivor, have you ever thought about the good and bad of dissociation? Did you know that if you suffered chronic childhood trauma, you are much more likely to be diagnosed with a trauma disorder as an adult? I am a child abuse survivor. Beginning at six, …
Are Your Connections Real or Fake? Are your connections real or fake? I use the word ‘connections’ loosely because this can mean many things: relationships, friends, family, work, and acquaintances. Do you seem to lose these connections when you set healthy boundaries and not allow yourself to be used? Hi, this is Kurt B. Ellis, …
Announcing My First Book Award! Today, I am so pleased to be announcing my first book award. On September 6, 2023, I learned that my Boy in the Barn novel was recognized as AWARD FINALIST in the 2023 GLOBAL BOOK AWARDS’ Politics & Social Sciences category. Hi, this is Kurt B. Ellis, an author who …
Do You Feel Responsible for Your Abuse? Do you feel responsible for your abuse? I hope not because you are an abuse victim; you are not responsible for what happened. It does not matter what you are, what you look like, where you were, what you said, did, or represented, what you were wearing, or …
How Do You Deal with the Narcissists in Your Life? How do you deal with the narcissists in your life? I am pretty intolerant of narcissists once I discover them. As a childhood trauma victim, I grew up being controlled, manipulated, and abused by narcissistic family members. As an adult, I now have a short …
Why Do You Self-Isolate? As a childhood trauma survivor, do you find at times that you prefer to be alone? Have you ever asked yourself, “Why do you self-isolate?” Self-isolation is a typical result of childhood trauma. And it’s one of the things I still battle with, even after years of therapy. Hi, this is Kurt …
Will You Be a Better Version of Your Parents? As a child abuse trauma survivor, did you ever ask yourself, “Will you be a better version of your parents?” Now we all know that parenting is not easy. Still, this fundamental question is something that we should all challenge ourselves. Hi, this is Kurt B. Ellis, …
Did You Become a Perfectionist? As a result of your child abuse, did you become a perfectionist? Did you ever feel like you were not good enough and that if you just worked harder, you could improve? Hi, this is Kurt B. Ellis, an author who self-publishes with Amazon’s Kindle Direct Publishing. I became a perfectionist because …